Reflections on The Quest Mastery Weekend

Posted on April 9, 2013 by The Quest

sunrise over london croped flattenedI’m real pleased that I signed up to do The Quest’s Mastery Weekend. It helped to complete a few of the things that I started to deal with during The Exploratory Weekend. In fact, I kind of think of them both now, as a single entity. A week’s worth of Questing, with a bit of an intermission, half way through.

Seeing guys change, seeing guys free themselves from their shackles and weighted chains, has been truly heart-warming. So fantastic to witness. And I hope the other guys who have drifted away, are in a better place than they were before.

I suppose it’s about Expectations, ours and others. Do people really think that spending a weekend or two with Darren and Ade is going to immediately transform all of our lives? Ah, but wouldn’t that be miraculous if they could. Just a swish of their magic wands. . . Unfortunately though, we live in a world without that specialist brand of magic.

The Quest process is therefore more akin to driving a car. You pass your test on the Quest Weekends, but you only really learn how to drive, when you’re on the roads afterwards. It’s about putting the work in, post Weekend, that really counts. That work that we do. It gets scary, hard and dirty at times, don’t it? And so easily, you can doubt, you have strength to make that lasting change.

But when the going gets tough, there is no shame in asking for a little help. I think I still may need a little help in that area. Spent far too long a time, locked away in my shyness, in my hidden and my not so hidden isolation.

Isolation being such a multifaceted gem. It’s not just about being lonely, it’s about being crippled in accessing those mechanisms for change. The dynamics of connection, nay re-connection and growth.

Always loved the word, Catalyst. Love the process it assists.


  1. Chemistry . A substance that causes or accelerates a chemical reaction without itself being affected.
  2. Something that causes activity between two or more persons or forces without itself being affected.
  3. A person or thing that precipitates an event or change: “His imprisonment by the powers that be, served as the catalyst that helped transform social unrest into revolution.”
  4. A person whose talk, enthusiasm, or energy causes others to be more friendly, enthusiastic, or energetic.

The Quest being a Catalyst. I can see Darren and Ade throwing that word into many a subsequent workshop – lol.

It prompts me now, to look back into the dark times of my recent past. I was so sad, so unbelievably sad. I was so consumed with the complexities of my strangled situation, lost and alone in the darkest of forests, while my heart languished at the bottom of some deep pit of despair. So clearly I believed there was no hope for me. . . No escape. . .

Wow, I didn’t want to go down the dark path writing this. I was really happy last night at the Tuesday Social. . .

And having just checked in with myself, I am still happy now. I am ok. I am sufficient. I am good. Oh, Fuck it. I AM GREAT!

You know, I get a warm feeling knowing that we are all teachers to those around us. Comprehension such a precious gift too, when we learn from others. All the good and the bad that they share. It really is up to us, what we do with it. How we play those cards. You know, I sometimes get so jealous, wishing I had been blessed with a better hand. Better cards, than the many bum cards I also got along the way. It really hurts sometime. But it’s not the cards you get, but how you play them that counts. The real yardstick, in assessing the success of your life.

Hey, I think I now sound like Clare Baldwin at the Para Olympics “Fate is what happens to you, destiny is what you do with it.”

Go on, work for that Gold!


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