The Quest Programme for Gay Men
Posted on April 19, 2013 by The Quest
Our next The Quest Programme will be taking place on Fri 19 – 21 June 2015.
During the programme we will be Investigating the past, Exploring the present, Releasing the pain and toxicity of the past and present, and Cultivating the awareness and tools to enable a wholehearted and nurturing present and future.
Closing date for registrations is Fri 12 June.
The Quest Programme
Although it might sound like the most daunting of our services, The Quest Programme for Gay Men forms the centre piece of our work.
“The Quest Programme is a transforming voyage of Self rediscovery, reconnection, realignment and reignition” – Ade Adeniji, Co-Founder.
“We call this an ‘intervention’. A way of pressing a ‘reset’ button for our lives” – Darren Brady, Co-Founder.
WHAT IS IT?
The Quest Programme is a psycho-educational and experiential process that allows participants to reclaim and reintegrate all aspects of themselves.
A team of professional Group Facilitators and certified Coaches take participants on an exhilarating and life changing journey that is intense, revealing, nurturing and profound.
The Quest Programme, organised in groups of up to 20 gay men, draws upon the latest evidence based practices including – self-inquiry, discussions in small and large groups, sharing memories, psychological exploration, visualisation, book work, journaling, coaching, self reflection and contributions from practitioners including Brené Brown, Alan Downs and David Richo.
During the process, participants get to grieve the past, release thoughts and beliefs that are no longer serving them, and practice new behaviours and beliefs that move them forward to living a life of fulfillment, connection and authentic self expression.
We go to the heart of the matter by posing the question:
“How is our past negatively impacting our present and jeopardising our future?”
HOW MANY DAYS ARE INVOLVED?
Preparation: Participants are asked make lists of reflections in response to a daily question in the week leading up to the weekend.
Friday (7pm – 10pm): Introduction session. Preparing for the journey, setting intentions and establishing safety. Exploring significant life moments.
Saturday (10am – 6pm): Investigating – Early childhood and adolescence experiences, Exploring – Limiting Beliefs & Survival Strategies, Investigating – Shame, Cultivating – Self Compassion + Empathy.
Sunday (10am – 5.30pm): Exploring – Adult experiences, Cultivating – Passion, Love & Integrity, Identifying and Setting – Personal goals and Support mechanisms.
Post Workshop Exercise: A 12-day support and reflection exercise via email.
Follow-up Integration Session (7pm – 10pm): Approximately 3 weeks after the workshop we gather to share our experiences, learning and challenges ahead.
During the voyage, The Quest uses a map comprising of four main ‘ports of call’ (or significant milestones) – Investigation, Exploration, Release and Cultivation – each port serving as a platform to help you better understand your past and fully step into your present.
- ‘Investigate’ the past, looking at the significant moments and experiences that impacted their childhood, adolescence and early adulthood.
- ‘Explore’ the present, by casting a critical eye over in their respective lives.
- An opportunity to safely work through the pain and ‘Release’ the underlying toxicity that can prohibit them from leading a truly fulfilled life.
- By creating valuable insights and life-skills each participant will become the true architect of their lives and ‘Cultivate’ an authentic way of living.
WHAT IS THE PREMISE OF THE PROGRAMME?
1. ODDLY OUT OF PLACE: Openly same-sex relationships are rarely reflected in our family of origin, nor in the families of those around us. Like all children, many of us looked around us for information, examples and guidance to help us make sense of our inner world and feel a sense of belonging, but we often found little or no evidence to match our hungry and inquisitive nature. In our search for meaning many of us had thoughts that included – Something is wrong, I don’t belong, I am alone
2. DEVELOPING LIMITING BELIEFS: Those thoughts led to beliefs that there was something wrong with us. Many of us had internal beliefs that included – I am bad, I am unloveable, I am unworthy, I am not good enough, I am a mistake, I am different
3. SURVIVAL STRATEGIES: In order to carry on with day-to-day living, we had to hide the limiting beliefs, we therefore put in place a variety of survival strategies. Many of us developed strategies that include – The Charmer,The Rebel, The Joker, The Pleaser, The Seducer, The Prince, The Chameleon, The Shape-shifter
4. THE PAST IN OUR PRESENT: This journey from childhood, through adolescence and into adulthood leaves many of us still carrying unhealed emotional scars, wounds and trauma from the past, which show up in our present day experiences. These show up in a variety of ways which can include – anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts, risky behaviours, low self- esteem, addictions and other self-defeating habits
By attending this interactive and engaging prgoramme, participants will:
- Gain a deeper understanding of how their upbringing has impacted their emotional development
- Develop an increased awareness of their behaviour and emotions
- Be engaged in a healing process
- Identify tools to improve their sense of self and their relationships
- Gain clarity on next steps for themselves, their relationships, and the world they live in
- Experience the support and intimacy of a group of gay men
- Create a positive and supportive new network
- Gain a greater sense of living as a gay man in today’s world
WHO IS IT FOR?
The Quest Programme is designed for gay men of all backgrounds and experiences, from personal development first timers to seasoned therapists. Diversity is curtail to the success of the workshop and this is reflected in the diverse ages, physical abilities, ethnic backgrounds and income brackets of our participants.
Still have questions? Do check out our responses to the frequently asked questions about The Quest Programme – FAQ
The Quest Programme dates for 2015 (London) are:
Fri 20 – Sun 22 February (follow-up: Thurs 12 March: 7 – 10pm) Fri 24 – Sun 26 April (follow-up: Thurs 14 May: 7 – 10pm)
- Fri 19 – Sun 21 June (follow-up: Thurs 9 July: 7 – 10pm)
- Fri 18 – Sun 20 Sept (follow-up: Thurs 8 Oct: 7 – 10pm)
- Fri 6 – Sun 8 Nov (follow-up: Thurs 26 Nov: 7- 10pm)
Venue: School of Social Entrepreneurs, The Fire Station Building, 2nd Floor,139 Tooley Street, London SE1 2HZ
We offer a follow-up Programme, for more information visit – The Quest Mastery. We also offer The Daring Way™ (based on the research of Brené Brown), for more information visit – www.daringeurope.com. Here at a glance are the other post-workshop support offered to those who attend The Quest Workshop.
“Great job! You created and maintained a unique and very special environment” – Shaun
“Revealing! Awesome! – Enrique
“Incredibly moving, challenging, intimate, transformative” – Chris
“Amazing insight into the complex issues of growing up as a gay person” – Leslie
“Positive, fun, emotional, affirming. Wholly positive and effective in making me feel ‘unstuck’ – thank you!” – Steve
“Enlightening, challenging, constructive” – Daran
“Powerful, emotional, bloody f**king difficult at times, but most of all – REWARDING. A powerful emotional roller coaster, but well guided all the way” – Chris
“A fantastic opportunity to share in people’s narratives and be part of a healing process. The helpers and facilitators were incredibly kind, warm, generous and present. Thank you. Transformational! Comforting. Moving” – Ali
“Right of passage course every gay man should do. Deep connection of the experience I and other gay men have in the challenges we face living happy, healthy and fulfilled lives” – Ben
“Challenging, scary at times. Way beyond what I was expecting.” – Martin
You can read what other participants have been saying in our ongoing “My Story” series.